No Thanksgiving Stress This Year!
Thanksgiving Stress? How could that be? For many of us it's a favorite holiday. Thanksgiving is a time to be grateful and when we are in an attitude of gratitude, it is almost impossible to feel stressed, right? So what happens around this particular feast day that puts us over the edge?
Well, Thanksgiving is also a time for families to come together. And when families come together, out come the expectations, forgotten dreams, regrets, jealousies, frustrations, unfinished conversations, and the high hopes for something different - this time!
Just the lead up to the event can be a trigger for angst. After all, cooking a 20 pound bird or the vegetarian equivalent is not an every day occurrence in most households and demands a level of focus that is not usually required for ordinary meal preparation.
Then what about all those visiting relatives that have to be picked up, accommodated, shuttled, fed, and nurtured. Is this a set up for stress or what? But you can't show any signs of stress because this is a family holiday and you are supposed to be happy, right? Until at some point along the way the lid comes off the bubbling pot of emotions. It is usually triggered by some seemingly insignificant remark. Then within minutes, all hell breaks loose.
Just another normal American family celebrating the best holiday we have. And we didn't even have to go shopping for gifts.
Want to make it easier to avoid this Thanksgiving stress?
1. Forget the expectations - let it be what it is.
2. Be thankful for the duration (all four days if that's what it is) and go beyond gratitude. See what you can give to anyone and everyone without needing anything back in return.
3. When the crap hits the fan - duck! Stay low profile and don't engage. Find ways to distract the aggrieved parties with acts of loving kindness and statements of gratitude.
4. Stay present. As easy as it might be to flee the scene, don't! You can be the bearer of love and gratitude if you really try. Isn't that what you wanted?
5. Enjoy the food and praise those who prepared it.
6. Volunteer to clean up and recruit others to join the team!
If you can do all of the above you are well on your way to a happy Thanksgiving, and hopefully, one without much thanksgiving stress. You will also most likely be way ahead of the person writing this great advice. .
And if you are having any trouble coming up with something to be grateful for, or if you just want a little Thanksgiving inspiration, take a look at
this short video.
If you really want to step outside the box this Thanksgiving you can always Send a Friend a Meal
One of my favorite Thanksgiving quotes:
"There is one day that is ours. There is one day when all we Americans who are not self-made go back to the old home to eat saleratus biscuits and marvel how much nearer to the porch the old pump looks than it used to. ... Thanksgiving Day ... is the one day that is purely American."